Snow Days

Today was an unexpected snow day.  Snow rarely comes before Thanksgiving in this area.  The precipitation was actually a wintry mix, about 3 inches of it.  It will not stay; by tomorrow it should be washed away by rain, but it was enough for a snow day to be called and to make it difficult to free up the car and drive.  Altogether, this snow day was a welcome interlude, allowing time to go slowly for awhile and to let accomplishments that were not personal items slide.   I am happy the snow day was there.

Snow days can be a mixed blessing, often depending largely on how they are perceived.  For me, this day was one to let go and relax for a little while, but there are other responses, which both I and others sometimes take.  A snow day can, for example, be a time of distress because work which must be finished by deadline is left undone, hopefully with a deadline extended.  It can present itself as a supposedly “free” day to quickly accomplish all the second priority tasks for which there are rarely time slots in the regular workweek.  For one who has a lot of second priority tasks, second only because it is difficult to bilocate and do two things in two locations at the same time, a snow day does not feel anything like a free day.  Sometimes a snow day presents a true emergency, such as a child about to be born during the storm.  Sometimes it is a day of guilt, for having relaxed when there are so many things to get done.  It depends, but mostly it depends on the perception of the person experiencing the snow day.  Yes, the situations are there, and the reactions to them can be both positive and negative.

One can perceive the missed deadline to be a failure or perceive it as a blessing because the delay gave time for improvement of the task, or for making small corrections which have had time to reveal themselves.  One can rejoice that some of the second priority tasks have finally received the attention needed.  The child will arrive; one can be grateful for the child and for the help that others may have given for the birth.  One can choose to be guilty, or grateful for a moment of relaxation.   The situations all remain.  The solutions may be affected by the attitudes of the people within the situations, but the people themselves can choose to be happy, grateful, frustrated, relaxed, angry, guilty, worried or however they choose to react.

Sometimes it can be difficult to realize that there is a choice.  When work has piled up and one chooses to use it as a relaxation or play day, it can be difficult to not make the choice to feel guilty about it.  “After all,” one may think,” it was my choice to not do all the things that needed doing, and I cannot blame the snow for their not being done.  It is my fault.”  At that thought, the guilt begins.  The “monkey mind” that can be a detriment to meditation is very facile at bringing up this kind of thought.  Similarly, if one is energized by snow and uses the opportunity to do the many things at home that have until now been left on the undone list, one can feel angry at not having the chance to have done all those things before, and at not having a truly “free” day.  Conversely, that same person can simply pause at the end of the day and enjoy the newly created order, giving thanks for the time given to accomplish it.  Hard as it is to realize, and often even harder to do, there is a choice.

A snow day is a respite; it does not last forever.  Tomorrow comes, and the normal order re-establishes itself.  If we have been lucky, or wise, as the case may be, we have been satisfied by that brief change, and are better able to engage the morrow.  Children know this instinctively, and most look forward to and back upon their snow days with pleasure.  Psychologists, philosophers, prophets and poets from past to present urge people to stay in touch with the children they once were.   Snow days are a wonderful time to do that.

May we all have the grace to pause and recapture our capacity to enjoy.  I do believe that is one key to our survival in a chaotic world, and one key to growing into a truly contributing and fulfilled adult.

Peace, Diane

 

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Masks

Last night was Halloween.  The children I teach had been anticipating for weeks.  The street was filled with excited children trick or treating, collecting candy door-to-door.  Although the children love the candy they get from trick-or-treating, equally important is the costume they wear.  Some go for the scariest they can find and opt for things like ghouls and werewolves.  Others really prefer the rush they get from a superhero costume.  For many girls, the most beautiful princess is the costume of choice.  Still others go for creativity, turning themselves into images of pumpkins, cats, robots, aliens and the like.   It is a night of masks, of temporarily trying on new identities.  The emphasis given to Halloween masks obscures what we all know but ignore, brush over or deny.  We all wear masks, almost all the time.

Our masks are physically less obvious than the traditional Halloween masks, but they are subtler only to the extent that we believe them, believe that what we are seeing accurately reflects the person wearing the mask.  At different times, and in different situations, we may wear masks of confidence, diffidence, approval or disapproval, beauty, intelligence, competence, rebelliousness and so on. The masks change with the situations and people (in other masks) that they encounter.  At work we may be cheerful, cooperative and deferential to the boss; at home, we may project fatigue, demands and criticism.  We may be at once loving to our friend, but rude to the cashier in the store.  The soft-spoken teacher can turn into a ball of angrily spoken sailor talk in the car.  The ease with which we can change masks is witness to those masks not being real.   Nonetheless, most people seem to believe in their mask of the moment.

That does not mean that masks are harmful.  They are actually quite useful, which, I think, is one reason they came into being.  Masks smooth social interactions and help keep society running smoothly.  Called manners and courtesy, they are expected to be exhibited even if one does not feel courteous.  Masks help individuals overcome feelings of inadequacy when they engage at work, socially or even in creative endeavors.  The mask of confidence can make its wearer for the moment feel confident.  Masks are worn to gain acceptance in the group.  I wonder how many people who engage in the “politically acceptable” mask truly believe that what is politically acceptable is real.  In either case, the mask gets them on the bandwagon.  Masks smooth our way as we engage with others in work, recreation and creative endeavor.  We would find life difficult if the masks were to suddenly disappear, and the complete transparency people say we should exhibit were to become predominant.

There are caveats, though.  The individual wearing the Halloween costume usually knows that he or she is not really a superhero, monster or Disney princess.   It is invigorating to wear that identity for a while in a socially accepted setting.  Most of the time the negative actions associated with princesses, monsters or superheroes do not manifest; people are not harmed, and property is not damaged.  We who wear our daily masks should take a lesson from the Halloween players.  Masks are fun and can even be valuable IF we remember they are not real and if we discover, in private or with others, who we really are.   Masks and transparency are a balance; each enhances the other, and either one without the other can be deleterious.  We are familiar with our masks.  We need to place attention on discovering who we are.

The discovery of who we are cannot take place at the same time as wearing a mask in the context of engaging in daily life.  Most religions and many non-religious philosophies emphasize the need for a time of withdrawal, for prayer, meditation or reflection.  Those are designed to be times in which we do not actually wear a mask, but can observe ourselves wearing our masks and thinking the thoughts that run incessantly through the waking mind.  “I can’t meditate,” some people complain.  The standard response is to not oppose the thoughts, but to simply observe them as they pass through the mind and change to other thoughts.   The point here is not to teach meditation, but to highlight the logic that if we can observe our thoughts and our masks, become consciously aware of them, then it follows that those thoughts and masks are not who we are.  They are not our essence.  From there, it follows that the one who is doing the watching – the one we cannot physically observe – is closer to the ourselves that we seek.  My sense is that the deeper we go into the awareness of ourselves as observer, the fewer and less distinct are the differences between observers.  We have been called emanations of timeless energy, creations of the One, and children of God.  Perhaps the observer in ourselves is closer to our origins than any mask could ever be.  Perhaps it is closer to the ineffable or the divine.

It is a simple concept, but not necessarily a simple practice.  We owe it to ourselves, though, to keep in our lives the balance between our innate transparent selves and the masks we wear. Whatever practice we adopt to maintain that equilibrium, may we value it enough to be consistent in its practice.  May we each be successful in knowing both ourselves and our masks, and in exercising choice about which stance we take at any given time.  Perhaps, after all, the trick-or-treaters in their own small way intuit a truth which we have temporarily forgotten.

Peace, Diane

 

Truth

It’s election season.  My email provides me regularly with requests for donation, with ads which promote one candidate or demean the same candidate, and with pronouncements that predict one doom or another if an authority either does or does not do something; these communications are usually couched in terms of dire emergency, and lately, in increasingly urgent dire emergency.    One of my friends complained, “I can’t trust anyone anymore.  I don’t know what the truth is.”

I am not sure anyone has ever been able to give an adequate definition of truth.  It is like love in that way.  We cannot define it, but most of us would say that we can recognize it, or that we could say what it is not.  However, lately there has been a great proliferation of viewpoints, interpretations, philosophies and sales pitches, each claiming to be the truth and many being partly true.   It is difficult to feel anything but confusion.

Like all of us, I see these big questions (truth, love, purpose, life) “through a glass, darkly.”  I certainly do not have an exclusive handle on Truth.   In simpler times, people tended to ascertain truth in much the same way as language developed – by the vast majority agreeing on what it is.  Now, it seems to be discovered more indirectly, by reading (including religious or philosophical texts) or conversing with other fallible beings who are trying to discover it.  However, one thing I think I understand is that truth is not the same as personal preference.  Personal preference is wonderful, and certainly has its place.  Yet, if everyone’s personal preference were truth, then we would have so many truths that the word itself would become meaningless.  We would have his truth, her truth, your truth, my truth, their truths, but no underlying understanding of what is true.

Sometimes, like my friend, I feel frustrated by the confusion and competing claims around me.   Because I am a human, I cannot speak with ultimate authority on what constitutes truth.  I can know my perspective on truth, perhaps, but not Truth.  I can muse on Truth, though, and can share my musings.  One thing that strikes me is that we are all One, united in our diversity.  What harms one of us harms all of us, including our planet and the beings with whom we share it.  If this is so, then perhaps Truth and Love are as Siamese twins, inextricably linked.  To love what is not specifically us (or I) is to also love ourselves, as tending to those who are not us, but with which we are one, is also nurturing ourselves, and vice-versa.  The extension, then, is that loving ourselves and all creation (and behaving lovingly) is to also love the One.  I think that is an aspect of Truth.

Another aspect, from which we are rapidly departing, is to honor what has gone before us, incorporating it in what we are creating, not rejecting it in favor of the new.  To honor what has gone before us (elders, philosophies, ideas, ways of handling things, ways of relating, recounts from the past, and the like) is to bring forth that wisdom to apply to the issues of the present.  To discount it in favor of “progress” and “new ways” is simply arrogance.  Are we of the present so powerful that we can trash what has been given from others and from Nature/Creation and instead substitute our new ideas and technologies, which we assume will work better than what has been created or gone before?   Where is humility in this process?  We need instead to bring forth our inherited wisdom and incorporate it in the developments of the present.

And how about the wars and violence that fill the airwaves with their news?   Is it Truth to harm and kill one another?  It does not make sense for that to be Truth, given that we are all One, all linked and from a common origin.  Truth is shown by not denigrating those who are different from us, or denying others a share in our own abundance, especially if they are different.  Are they not people in our wondrous diversity, even if we disagree?   Do they not also have as much right as we do to equal treatment under the law, including economic treatment?  What does the “race to the top”, whereby a few have great wealth and others great difficulty, say about us as humans?

Just as there is unity in diversity, there is also diversity in unity.  Why does the existence of those who are different and with whom we disagree seem to threaten us, as it seems to do when we try to make them subservient or wrong or even make them disappear?   It is equally unlike Truth to deny our diversity by saying that those who are different are all the same.  Brothers can differ and disagree.  One does not have to be good and right and the other bad and wrong.

Then, there are the current issues surrounding the reproductive processes.  I know I am being politically incorrect here, but it seems to me that we have both separated the aspects of male and female union – bonding and reproduction – and separated it as a whole from any kind of responsibility.  We are now in an era where recreational sex includes any kind between any people, on demand.   Society is expected to provide us the “right” to be free from disease (of course, there should be healing, but it is also responsibility to avoid behaving in ways that attract infection), as well as freedom from any inconvenience, to the extent that our convenience trumps the right of another to live.  We tend to not think about that, just get on the current bandwagon.  Is the current way Truth?  Or do we even care, so long as personal preferences are catered to?

Finally, which is what began this discourse in the first place, there are so many lies told and perpetrated, especially via our technology, that it becomes difficult to ascertain the grains of truth amidst the noise.  There are lies from government, from business and advertising, from health care disciplines which compete instead of cooperating, and falsehoods even in smaller businesses and interpersonal dealings.   There are people who swear before God (or solemnly affirm) that they are telling the truth when they are not.  We are accusing each other and squabbling instead of banding together to find real solutions to the issues of our times.  Is the commonality of telling what is false now Truth?  I sympathize with my friend who says she cannot trust anymore.  It is no wonder.

We need to step back, take time away from the mad rush to no one knows exactly where, disconnect with devices, pause the accomplishing, and contemplate where we are going, and what is Truth.  Perhaps if we commit to and protect those times, we will be able to relax and reach a space in which we can finally consider the larger questions, such as Truth.   In doing that, we may be able to set ourselves again on a sane path forward.    I wish for us all success in taking that time to contemplate.

Peace, Diane

Building a New World

I get all sorts of things in the email.  Recently I got the following email from Bernie Sanders, founder of 350.org, which seeks to halt the warming of our planet and renew justice for all on a global basis.  I have summarized the lengthy message below; three dots mean I have left something out and italics mean I have changed or added something, in the interests of at least some brevity without changing the meaning.  Please take the time to read it, as a commentary follows.  The email address from which it was sent is info@350.org ;  Bernie@350.org might also be tried, although the result of both might be a list of different emails from which to access the organization.

For the past 40 years in this country, our great middle class — once the envy of the world — has been disappearing. All over America, and the world, people are working two or three jobs, scared to death about the futures of their children, while almost all new income goes to a small number of people at the top. … In the global economy, … a handful of billionaires own more than the bottom half of people around the world — that’s 3.7 billion people….

And one of the results of that reality is that in Europe, in Russia, in the Middle East, in Asia and elsewhere we are seeing movements led by demagogues who exploit people’s fears, prejudices and grievances to achieve and hold on to power.

And while these regimes may differ in some respects, they share key attributes: hostility toward democratic norms, antagonism toward a free press, intolerance toward ethnic and religious minorities, and a belief that government should benefit their own selfish financial interests.

These leaders are also deeply connected to a network of multi-billionaire oligarchs… who see the world as their economic plaything. …

Some authoritarian states are much farther along this kleptocratic process than others. In Russia, it is impossible to tell where the decisions of government end and the interests of Vladimir Putin and his circle of oligarchs begin. They operate as one unit. Similarly, in Saudi Arabia, there is no debate about separation because the natural resources of the state, valued at trillions of dollars, belong to the Saudi royal family. In Hungary, far-right authoritarian leader Viktor Orbán is openly allied with Putin in Russia. In China, an inner circle led by Xi Jinping has steadily consolidated power, clamping down on domestic political freedom while it aggressively promotes a version of authoritarian capitalism abroad. …

To effectively oppose systemic and entrenched authoritarianism, we cannot simply go back to the failed status quo of the last several decades. In order to fight this trend, we need to strengthen the global coalition of forward-looking activists who seek to return power to the people and the planet.

Instead of division and hatred, we will promote unity, inclusion, and an agenda based on economic, social, racial, and environmental justice.

Governments of the world must come together to reverse the economic inequity that favors the few super-wealthy at the expense of working families; austerity for the working majority so that corporations and the wealthy can receive tax loopholes is not acceptable.

It is not acceptable that the fossil fuel industry continues to make huge profits while their carbon emissions destroy the planet for our children and grandchildren.

It is not acceptable that a handful of multinational media giants, owned by a small number of billionaires, largely control the flow of information on the planet.

It is not acceptable that trade policies that benefit large multinational corporations and encourage a race to the bottom hurt working people throughout the world as they are written out of public view.

It is not acceptable that, with the Cold War long behind us, countries around the world spend over $1 trillion a year on weapons of destruction, while millions of children die of easily treatable diseases.

In order to effectively combat the rise of the international authoritarian axis, we need an international, deeply forward-looking movement that mobilizes behind a vision of shared prosperity, security and dignity for all people and that addresses the massive global inequality that exists, not only in wealth but in political power as well.  …

We must take the opportunity to reconceptualize a …global order based on human solidarity, an order that recognizes that every person on this planet shares a common humanity, that we all want our children to grow up healthy, to have a good education, have decent jobs, drink clean water, breathe clean air and live in peace. …

In a time of exploding wealth and technology, we have the potential to create a decent life for all people, especially as we reach out to others of like mind. Our job is to build on our common humanity and do everything that we can to oppose all of the forces, whether unaccountable government power or unaccountable corporate power, who try to divide us up and set us against each other.

We know that those forces work together across borders. We must do the same….

In solidarity,

Bernie Sanders

Mr. Sanders’ observations are accurate and in accord with other such respected leaders as Robert Reich and Naomi Klein, such publications as YES Magazine, and such movements as Occupy and the Water Protectors of Standing Rock fame.   We need the speakers, writers and organizers to coordinate massive protests and marches against the status quo, to raise the awareness of people as to the nature of the status quo and its effect on people and the planet, and to inspire, hopefully even among those currently in power, the vision of change.  However, all these, needed though they might be, are not enough.   Marches and protests come and go as they momentarily capture the attention of the population.   Writers, philosophers and speakers present wisdom and promote just action, as they have for centuries, many times without having certain and lasting effect, outside of academia, on the institutions of daily authority.  The lasting changes which have happened historically – not that they have completely resulted in a just and peaceful world – have happened over time as a result of persistent involvement of everyone, not just a powerful elite alone.

In addition to protesting, agitating, and raising awareness, we need a model of what it is with which we wish to replace the existing system.  Without such a model, the likelihood is that we will agitate certain people or movements out of power, after which they will be replaced by something which turns out to be much the same, perhaps with a different flavor.  We need a specific, sustainable, grounded and extant vision to which we want to progress before, or certainly concurrent with, the protests and activism.  It is not enough to be against what we know or are becoming aware of.  We need to be for something, and we need to clarify and ground just what it is we are for.  Granted, some of those visions might differ, but to be effective, they will all have common principles which they exhibit, and they will all be able to cooperate with each other.

One such movement, not often in the media, is the movement towards sustainable and intentional community.  Many of these communities are well-established, and newer ones are often mentored by the more established groups.  They are widely varied in their memberships and flavors, but they tend to embrace some common goals, such as eco-sustainability, simplicity, sharing, economic justice and a means of livelihood for all, human growth, both individual and group, cooperation, careful listening, group decision making, community outreach, and the like.  Some have a smaller governing group, but in most, the decision-making process is widely inclusive.  They are a radical change from the current competitive, everyone for him or herself mode in which we operate. (Charities and economic initiatives and programs do not change the basic assumption of some having and being powerful and some not having and, less powerful, needing help to be self-sustaining.) The downsides of this I hear to be two; people must give up their notion of being units unto themselves and learn how to cooperate with each other to become parts of a unit that serves them, but also serves others in the units.  They must be less independent, and more interdependent.  Second, this may take a lot of time in meetings to work things out.  However, if one is well sustained by less time spent working to survive, then it follows that time is made available to attend meetings to work things out.

Details on communities and how they are different and similar and how they work things out and live sustainably and cooperatively can be found by contacting the Fellowship for Intentional Community, probably the most comprehensive current resource.  Their mailing address is 23 Dancing Rabbit Lane, Rutledge, MO 63563.  Their website is www.ic.org    reply@ic.org  might be tried as well.  They publish a monthly magazine entitled Communities.  They also publish a Communities Directory, which lists and summarizes descriptions of intentional communities worldwide.  Numerous books on the subject also exist, some available in libraries.

As we are swept up (if we are) in the calls for change, activism, protests and quiet efforts to help, let us all remember that we need a well-thought-out vision to guide our efforts.  Time to ponder and create that vision is a prerequisite if we want our other efforts to be effective.  It is not enough to take down; we must also build up, and that effort can be more difficult than the taking down.  I wish us all the patience and commitment to create our visions, separately and communally, and the courage and persistence to pursue them.

Peace, Diane